My parents always encouraged me to make my own decision. So, at the age of 5 I said “No” to my piano teacher and quitted the class. In fourth grade I decided for myself to participate at an exam for Intensive English class and passed it.
I have a big brother who plays the violin and is the concert master of the Philharmonic Orchestra of Arad, Romania. What I like about artists and about him is that they are unique. They do not search for material things, but the healing energy of music. What a peaceful world would be if we all could just delight in this Journey on Mother Earth.
I took drama classes in junior high school, and I played volleyball and was in debate teams in high school. I was always active and very social. I used to speak for those who couldn’t and make justice where there was none.
I’ve been a nerd all my life. Although I almost always had straight A’s, my favorite classes were Romanian and English Language and Literature
I have a beautiful voice and sang for and with the kids in my therapy sessions. I was always surrounded by music so it comes natural to me. Moreover, a couple of years ago I took an online class at Duke University about “The Biology of Music: What we like to hear and why” that helped me introduce music in speech and language development at nonverbal children.
I only had one boyfriend in my entire life until now and I married him. We’ve been together for the last 14 years. We know each other since I was in 6th grade, but only became a couple when I was 17 years old. He was my brother’s best friend. I love Paul, my husband, more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.
My husband has an atypical brain and a huge IQ ( he’s been tested). Although he has a huge IQ, he encounters difficulties to get to people. In a way, I am his bridge to the world. I sometimes “translate” to him our world. Or, at least I used to, until he took classes of behavioral analysis and psychology and is now a Business Profiler.
Due to his beautiful mind, Paul helps me bring to life all my wild dreams. I was always encouraged to dream and follow my dreams. So, in my private practice, I always went to my manager and told him about my ideas and he always found a way to make them come true. This is how, in the office we had robots and plenty of technology to help clients heal.
We have two dogs. Rey is a Labrador Retriever (a former therapy dog) and Ryo is a German Shepard (a former search dog). P.S. My husband used to be a detective.
We live simple. We found out that having less material things create room for spiritual ones. We have 4 plates, 4 forks and spoons, 1 pan and 1 pot. We do not posses a lot of clothes, but only the ones that help us feel comfortable. Paul has always been this way so I think that for him this came natural. But before being with him, I used to buy a lot of clothes, ones were even in multiple colors (I know now that I was an anxious teenager and had trouble letting go of things). I feel free now!
In my teenage years I was anorexic. I used to throw up or use different and unhealthy methods to lose weight. I always kept my dysfunctional behaviors a secret and few people in my life know this. Paul, my husband, is one of them and for that, for helping me stop, I am grateful and thank him. Unfortunately, in those times, in Romania, psychological help wasn’t so available, so helping each other as friends, family or couples was all we could do.
As a child, I always used to bring stray animals home. As an adult, after therapy, I can understand now that my need to bring all the animals home was due to a childhood trauma, when I got lost from my big brother and was alone. So, when I see animals alone on the streets, I get a knot in my stomach and a huge pain in my chest. I know now that these were my feelings while being lost, and that in the present moment I am safe. But as it is said in the movie “Moana” “scars can heal and reveal just where you are.” For there weren’t my traumas, maybe I wouldn’t be the psychotherapist I am today.